i. don’t. care.

i. don’t. care.

 

now this might seem a bit harsh or that it is spoken out of anger or frustration..but let me explain. as girls we battle the feelings of judgment and wondering what other people think about us at all times. but why? why do we give other people such power over us? and many times it’s not even based off something they actually did or said, it’s based off our “interpretation” of the way we think they perceive us. we are worried about saying the wrong thing, doing the wrong thing, wearing the wrong thing. sometimes it even make us unable to function normally without constant paranoia. BUT we can choose differently. we can Choose to say..i. don’t. care. Meaning..I’m not going to worry about what other people think constantly. They are not the ones that are important. God is our only “judge” and he already sent Jesus to forgive and save us. so by that, we should not ever worry about what another person says about us. this does not mean that we give up and don’t take care of ourselves but rather that we do things out of joy, not out of fear. that we don’t allow the fear of man/woman to dictate what we do. we are all created differently for a reason. we have a purpose in Christ. there is absolutely no need to try and fit into society’s mold. In fact Romans 12:2 even tells us “Do not conform any longer to the patterns of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” Jesus wants us to live our life right thru His renewing, not through what we think other people want from us. PHEW! this should really lift a load off of our shoulders. we have true freedom in Christ through this. not only women but men as well. this is not always easy (in fact, it can be very difficult), it is a daily struggle at times but it is worth it.

 

so in regards to the way other people view me..i will choose to say..

 

i. don’t. care.

reflection.

I saw this posting and thought I would share. It’s a great reminder that taking a look at things from another perspective can sometimes lead to revealing actual truth.

A while back, at the entrance of a gym, there was a picture of a very thin and beautiful woman. The caption was “This summer, do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?”

The story goes, a woman (of clothing size unknown) answered the following way:

“Dear people, whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, seals, curious humans), they are sexually active and raise their children with great tenderness.
They entertain like crazy with dolphins and eat lots of prawns. They swim all day and travel to fantastic places like Patagonia, the Barents Sea or the coral reefs of Polynesia.
They sing incredibly well and sometimes even are on cds. They are impressive and dearly loved animals, which everyone defend and admires.

Mermaids do not exist.

But if they existed, they would line up to see a psychologist because of a problem of split personality: woman or fish?
They would have no sex life and could not bear children.
Yes, they would be lovely, but lonely and sad.
And, who wants a girl that smells like fish by his side?

Without a doubt, I’d rather be a whale.

At a time when the media tells us that only thin is beautiful, I prefer to eat ice cream with my kids, to have dinner with my husband, to eat and drink and have fun with my friends.

We women, we gain weight because we accumulate so much wisdom and knowledge that there isn’t enough space in our heads, and it spreads all over our bodies.
We are not fat, we are greatly cultivated.
Every time I see my curves in the mirror, I tell myself: “How amazing am I ?! “

take heart.

My Princess…

Guard Your Heart



If I were to hand you a fragile, newborn baby girl, I know that you would protect her with your life. Your arms would be strong, your feet sure, and your eyes ever watchful. Be careful, My trusted one! For I have placed something just as precious and delicate within you. It is your heart…your very life! Treasure it. Protect it. Watch over it with all your strength. For the world and all it’s pleasures are like kidnappers who will stop at nothing to steal your heart away from Me and destroy it. I want what is best for you, My treasured one, and although you sometimes feel that the sinful pleasures of this world don’t seem harmful, they will separate you from Me. Just as a newborn is helpless without loving care, you also will suffer if your heart is taken from Me. So I’m asking you to guard your heart and cling to Me, the Source of your life.



Love,

 Your King and your Life Giver


“Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” – Proverbs 4:23. (NIV)

priceless Princess.

This is a post from one of my favorite devotional books “His Princess”:

My Princess…

You Are My Masterpiece

I love what I have created. I am delighted in you! Don’t ever feel insecure about what you think you are not, because I made you in My image and your uniqueness is a gift from Me. I did not give you a life, My love, for you to squeeze into a man-made mold. You are royalty, but you won’t discover that truth by gazing into a mirror. Let Me be your mirror and I will reflect back to you your true beauty. The more you gaze at Me, the more you will see My workmanship in you. The sooner you see yourself for who you really are, the sooner you can begin your reign as My priceless princess with a purpose.


Love,

Your King and your Creator



Eph. 2:10 “For we are God’s masterpiece, He created us anew in Christ Jesus so that we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.”

fake.

 

everywhere you look now everything is fake. fake boobs. fake faces (covered with makeup). fake smiles. i grew up seeing alot of “fake” first hand. what’s funny is the fake hair, the makeup, the plastic surgery, all of the cosmetic things dont get me mad it just makes me sad for the person who feels they need that to be happy, beautiful, successful, or even just worth spending time with. the fake smiles however are a different story. i hate how we tend to “pretend” around everyone. i see people act one way when with one person and be the exact opposite with another. there is no “genuine.” that makes me even sadder. i saw this lived out in the worst way in my teen years with my “fake” friends. when it was just me and them, we were doing great. laughing. having fun. but the second anyone else came around..”bekah didnt exsist.” this all stems from the same thing though. lack of self-approval almost. a need for someone else to accept you. and in order to do that we become “fake.” putting on a mask that after years of juggling has become a permanent part of life. a fixture, movable but too painful to re-move. we have lost ourselves in this need to impress and to feel love, when in fact we lose what is most precious.

simply you.

no one is like you. why should you look at others and try to conform and fit into a mold you were never meant to fit into? you rob the world of the joy of having your skills, love, quirkiness, humor, etc displayed for all to see.

so, who are you?

be-dazzled

 


Ever since I was a little girl I wanted desperately for someone to find me and “work their magic on me,” like in the movie Cineralla. It wasn’t enough to be a “good person” you needed the beauty to go with it. I waited and waited for the day to come..but no such luck. It never came. I found myself despising the way I looked. I had huge glasses, a big nose, and a gangly body. It never occured to me, until much later, that I Was beautiful, just the way I was. I didnt have to have a “make-over” to make myself into what society tells me is beautiful. I already had the most amazing, talented, fashion designer craft me into existence with His bare hands. God created me the way I am. He formed every part of me. Who am I to say “Oops God, you messed. I’m not right”? Take a look in the mirror, dont compare yourself to anyone else..cuz no one else is there. Take a look at how beautifully, and skillfully God handcrafted you. You. are. beautiful.


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